Is it possible that you can be conditioned into living a domestic life under that umbrella of verbal and emotional abuse for many years and not know it or perhaps even realize it? What is domestic abuse anyway? Well for one, domestic means in relation to in running a home or family relations. Abuse means an improper way of treatment. So what does it mean? What is the legal definition of Domestic Violence in California?
Is it possible that at one point in your life, your life was so horrible that jumping into a new relationship that verbally and emotionally abuses you, let alone degrades you as a mother or woman is a better life for you? Is it possible that once you hear those verbal assaults about your persona, style, looks, thought process, lifestyle, care giving, cook, friendships, etc that you begin to believe them and accept them EVEN though somewhere deep inside you have a little girl still wanting to hear something nice? You try and try to impress only to fail each and every time?
Personally, I feel like the battle scars that you’ve endured throughout life and are hidden deep inside your soul hurt the most. They are more painful than visual topical scars. Could it be because we don’t expose them and latch on real tight afraid to feel ashamed or embarrassed? Visual scars however don’t come with much pain. When I look at my scars, I have a faint recollection of how I got the scars to begin with. I feel like mental and emotional scars are tougher to heal because as with cuts, you naturally need to expose the cut to air in order to heal quick. However, you can also go the other route. You can clean your cut, use Neosporin and bandage it up as what we would do with Professionals. This is why we have many professionals in this field. You can also choose to go the natural route. I tend to go naturally and hope that I will get stronger, however if my wounds don’t heal, I will resort to a professional.
So back to verbal abuse. I want to know if there are many degrees of verbal and emotional abuse? What if you are just an overly sensitive person? What if all your life you were brought up with rainbows, butterflies and unicorns and one day someone made a comment about, let’s say … your cooking and said, “I wouldn’t feed this shit to my dog?!” Would your world come crashing down into despair or would you take it and say, “Well my dog is gonna eat like a King!” I feel like this situation can go both ways depending on how you were brought up. Can I claim verbal and emotional abuse? What if I have a tough core? Should we bring up our kids into developing a tough core so that when situations like these arise, they protect themselves? So what are the different types of abuse? Let’s find out here. types of abuse?
Let’s find out.